More often than not, you find people disliking you because you are more successful or happier than they are. Maybe because they seek the things that you have in your life and, in turn, they develop a bitter perspective towards you. You don’t really take notice of the fact that they just want to “rain on your parade” and dampen your high spirits. I mean, somehow, most tend to think that by making someone else feel bad about their life, they will magically feel better about their own life. In the end, they just want to pull you down to their level to make their life seem not as bad.
“Isn’t it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?”
― Sean Covey
It’s simple really, a major reason why they do this is because they are envious or jealous of you. Think about it, who wouldn’t want to be successful. Who would want to have the best.. to be the best. Whenever they see you successful, some might be happy for you, others might be jealous, or even a mixture of the two emotions. Contrary to popular belief, most people don’t want you to become successful, they want you to stay in the same league as they are. Honestly, the best thing to do when this happens is to just ignore them, as hard as that may be, and just remember that they might be hurting or struggling with something in their lives at the moment.
To those who find themselves being bitter about successful people: I’m not encouraging this kind of animosity or hatred at all but I understand how sometimes it’s really difficult to be happy for someone else when you are, personally, not doing as well as you would want to in your own life. Just keep in mind that there isn’t anyone in this world who is not cripplingly sad about something. So before you open your mouth, remember that they are human and have bad things in their life too.
Instead of hating someone because they are happy or successful, find a way to channel those negative energies into inspiration for you to further improve your life and get to where you want to be. Nothing positive truly comes from being an envious person however, by using your feelings to motivate yourself, you can make something out of it. Don’t ever think that you are incapable of the sort of success you see other people with. Yes, it may sound cliché, but I’m a firm believer in the fact that you can do anything that you put your mind to.
Well that’s all for today, so thanks for reading and I’ll see you all again next week!
Here’s the song that inspired this post: